Sound of Fuji music, jokes at Catholic Praise Concert

Sound of Fuji music, jokes at Catholic Praise Concert

By Daniel Anazia

Contrary to expectations, this year’s edition of the Catholic Praise Concert (CPC), third in the series was a huge success. The one-day gospel music concert brings together Christians from all denominations to offer praise offering to God.
The holy gig featured performances from some known gospel music talents, who led the audience in praise, worship, dance and special highlight performances. The show has become an opportunity for Christians, particularly Catholic faithful to gather, putting aside all ungodly differences and lift their voices in worship to God.
There was pessimism before the show; this is due to its shift from daylight to all night, which according to feelers from the audience would discourage people from attending, as many cited the recent security challenges in Lagos as premise.
Artistes on parade on the night include 13-year-old David Aduragbemi from 2013 Nigeria’s Got Talent (NGT), Kenny Kore, Joe Praize, Rev. Fr. Tony-Maria Boluwaji, Rev. Fr. Lawrence Adelana, who is also known as ‘Fada Fuji’; Rev. Ss Lucy, Tessy Aniesi, Psalmos, Kellar Thrillz and Daniel Azuka popularly known as A-Strings, a Nigerian violinist based in Turkey.

Others are Great CYON led by Grace Bernard, Harmonic Syndrome, Chikamji, Hillary George, SOTM Crew, Clenz, Nonso, Jesus Baby, St. Leo Charismatic Band, Victor and his group, Emmanuel and his group from St. Leo Catholic Church.

Choirs that graced the event include St. Augustine Choir and St. Charles Lwanga Choir both of St. Leo Catholic Church, and St. Cecilia Choir of St. Thomas More Catholic Church, UNILAG, while comedians Judicious, MC Ukwa and Paloma rib-cracked the audience as they kept asking for more of their jokes.

Expressing his excitement at the success of the show, one of the artistes, Fada Fuji, said he had been looking up to the show, adding that CPC is squaring up to House on The Rock’s ‘Experience’, which attracts gospel musicians from across the world.

“I am very excited; it is as if someone has given me trillions of dollars. It has been my dream to see things happen this way in the Catholic Church. It is close to ‘Experience’ organised by Adefarasin,” he said.

Known and loved for introducing fuji, which used to be a street music into the church, Fada Fuji wowed the audience with his performance as everybody wriggled and wiggled their waist in gyration to the rhythmic tune of the fuji.

Rev. Ss Lucy displayed expertise with the saxophone while performing Nathaniel Bassey’s Imeela, just as Kellar Thrillz thrilled the audience with raw energy as his dancers displayed acrobatic dancing skills, especially when he performed the song Egwu eji.

How men can avoid breast cancer — Study

How men can avoid breast cancer — Study

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), cancer is a leading cause of death worldwide and accounted for 7.6 million deaths in 2008. The International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC), the arm of the WHO that deals with cancer, thinks that 100,000 new cases of cancer occurred in Nigeria in 2008 and the number is increasing every year. A recent report showed that if current population trends continue, the number of people with cancer worldwide will go up to 22.2 million by 2030, up from 12.7 million in 2008, which is about a 75 per cent increase.

In a study carried out by the Nigerian National System of Cancer Registry, it was discovered that there has been “a 100 per cent increase in breast cancer incidence in Nigeria over the last decade” with ‘prostate, colorectal cancer (large intestine), lymphomas (lymph nodes), liver and skin as the five most common cancers affecting Nigerian men while breast, cervix, ovary, lymphomas and skin cancers are most common in women.’

Professor Clement Adebamowo, President of the Society of Oncology and Cancer Research of Nigeria (SOCRON) and Director of Research and Strategic information at Institute of Human Virology Nigeria (IHVN), reiterates that “the commonest cancers in Nigerian women – Breast and Cervix constitute 60 per cent of all cancers affecting Nigerian women.”

Cancer, which is the uncontrolled growth and spread of cells, is a disease that can ravage any part of the body. However, in spite of the pervasiveness of this disease, certain myths still surround cancer.

Myth: Only women get breast cancer

For most people, when breast cancer is mentioned, it is deemed a women’s health issue. But did you know that men can also have breast cancer? According to Professor Adebamowo, breast cancer does occur in men, although it is at ratio 1 to 100 of female breast cancers. He adds that it is commoner in hypogonadic men.

Recent studies have shown that male breast cancer, though rare, is usually more deadly. Professor Adebamowo attributes this to the fact that usually male breast cancers are advanced at presentation because of lack of supporting tissue.

The American Cancer Society estimates 1 in 1,000 men will get breast cancer, versus 1 in 8 women. However, they suggest that men should be aware of the symptoms which include a lump under or near a nipple, nipple discharge and breasts that are misshapen or don’t match, and they should have it checked out by their doctor as quickly as possible.

Myth: Once you have cancer you will die Cancer is not a death sentence.

Although cancer is one of the leading cause of deaths in the world, it can be treated. The secret is in early detection. There are increasing reports of survival cases, especially when there is early detection and treatment, so all hope is not lost once one has cancer. A significant proportion of cancers can be treated by surgery, radiotherapy or chemotherapy, especially if they are detected early.

Myth: It is better to remain unaware that you have cancer

Cancer is one disease that doesn’t support the saying that ‘ignorance is bliss.’ In fact, with cancer, ignorance could be the deciding factor in whether one can get treated and live a normal life or start a countdown to the end of life. Experts have reiterated the importance of early detection. Thus, once you notice any anomaly in your body, it is crucial you consult with a doctor. Although not all symptoms of illness in the body indicates cancer, no symptom should be ignored or overlooked, especially if it has lasted a long time or is getting worse. That singular step can be life-saving.

Myth: There is nothing you can do to prevent cancer

The WHO reports that at least one-third of all cancer cases are preventable and prevention offers the most cost-effective long-term strategy for the control of cancer. Although advances are on-going on cancer treatment and a cure is yet to be in sight, medical experts have suggested that lifestyle changes are important in reducing the chances of having the disease.

According to Dr. Adenike Adeniji-Sofoluwe, a consultant radiologist with the University College Hospital, Ibadan, Oyo State, “the exact cause of cancer is not known, but there are certain risk factors such as obesity, alcohol consumption, consuming excess of processed food, height, genetics, exposure to radiation, among others, that increase the likelihood of having it.”

The Breast Cancer Association of Nigeria (BRECAN) advises that to reduce the risk, certain lifestyle changes should be adopted. They include: getting active by aiming for at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day; eating balanced diet that is high in fruit, vegetables and whole grains and low in fat and sugar; limiting alcohol intake and avoiding smoking and exposure to second-hand smoke.

Culled from: The Citizen Ng

Child Sexual Abuse Increases

Child Sexual Abuse Increases

The rate of child sexual abuse is increasing and this is creating worry and tension in the society. What used to be a rare occurrence has gone daily, and not all the cases are reported in the media or to the police.

Majority of abusers are males while majority of victims are females. Religious organisations are worried, same for human rights groups, civil society groups, parents and guardians.

Child abuse usually happen in the home or yard with someone the child knows not with strangers. The abuser could be ‘Daddy’ or ‘Mummy,’ ‘Uncle, ‘or ‘Aunty.’ And Uncle may not be a family member or blood relation.

He may be a neighbour, unemployed youth, nearby shop owner, church member, lesson teacher, Daddy’s driver or business partner, family friend or any person who visits your home regularly. Women also sexually abuse children but such cases are hardly reported.

Parents and guardians now nurse fear over the safety of their children as adults use children, some below age 5, to satiate their lust. Single mothers are the hardest hit, as they virtually abandon the child to the care of others to struggle for daily bread. Men who sexually abuse children are called paedophiles.

The age of their victims range from as low as three years to teenagers. And when caught in the act, the abuser blames the ‘devil’ for the act. Parents’ beware! Paedophiles are on rampage. Your child could be a victim.

Stories of rape, incest, sexual molestation are now increasingly reported in the media, and the disturbing dimension is that most of the victims are children. The sordid and gory tales often leaves victims’ families in a state of bewilderment and shock. The question of concerned observers is:

Why would anyone defile an innocent child? And the worst case scenario is that the abuser could be the parent of the child or family member.

Intra-familial abuse is one of the worst tortures a child can suffer. It affects the child psychologically and emotionally. A girl that is sexually abused by her father also goes through multiple traumas and her mother is at a loss on how to manage the tragedy and handle the monster at home. Mommy is also saddled with the responsibility of helping her daughter cope with the psychological healing.

How does a young girl know she is close to a paedophile? Psychologists and behavioural experts should rise to this challenge and save our children. A friendly man a child loves and trusts could be a monster. Like all stages of grief, shock and withdrawal is usually the first reaction of a victim while the abuser is quick to deny. I remember a case where a friend of mine was sexually harassed by an uncle.

Nobody believed her story. Her uncle denied the charge and later beat her up thoroughly. As is it is Nigeria so it happens in other countries.

A case reported in India showed a young girl who was sexually abused by her father. She was denied justice simply because her mother blamed her for it. The net of abusers has been thrown wider to include aunties, cousins, friends of siblings, and house helps.

Family values are being eroded just as sexual harassment, incest and rape have become frequent. Against the background of values such as, you cannot accuse an Elder or Chief, the mother of the female victim finds herself in a dilemma; whether to believe the abuser or the victim. Most times she believes the former.

Some families now understand the dangers of some family values and are quick to keep their relatives at bay. What about the housemaid who stays all day with the child? She may well be a home terrorist. This has made increasing number of young mothers raising children to avoid them. Perhaps, a CCTV will be very handy, but how many families can afford this?

And the neighbour who plays with the child and supplies ice cream, sweets, or candy to entice the little boy or girl and begins to fondle him or her. That’s a danger signal.

Causes of Abuse
The reasons are many but some are worthy of mention. Alcohol and drug abuse come in here. Negligence of parents and guardians has reached an all-time high. If you are not observant or you put all your attention on work and business, your child could be a victim.

There is that family friend or regular visitor you don’t suspect who lurks around, looking for the opportunity to strike. When you are busy with work or project, or you concentrate on something or business that takes your whole time, or you travel frequently, this is a clear signal to the abuser that the coast is clear for him to make that move.

He comes to your home frequently on the pretext of asking after your children. Then he strikes. He fusses over your young daughter, cuddles her, and is eager to play the role of baby-sitter, if she is a toddler. This person may end up introducing your other children to pornography, another cause of child sexual abuse. This is being fast tracked by digital technology.

And a new trend has set in. Incest has become rampant among cousins and siblings and the number of men who sleep with their daughters, sometimes forcefully, is increasing.

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Use of Feminine Care Products: Are females buying Cancer?

Use of Feminine Care Products: Are females buying Cancer?

As consumers, we use a lot of products in and on our bodies. And we trust that the manufacturers and consumer protection agencies have done their due diligence to ascertain that these products are safe.

Unfortunately, this is not the case. Today, we will discuss Female Hygiene/Sanitary products, also called Feminine Care products. These include Pads and Tampons or other items used in the intimate genital areas.

Firstly, let us understand that these areas of the body are highly vascular. This means the Vulva, Vaginal and Cervical areas are very rich in blood vessels, lymphatic vessel and thin mucous membranes. Thus, any item that contacts these areas will be rapidly absorbed (or enter) into your body, and your blood stream will circulate it all over your body. Thus, we must be very protective and selective and knowledgeable of what goes into these areas.

Whether it is the body fluids of a sexual partner which containsSperm/Semen, bacteria, viruses, fungus (yeast),chemicals from his/her blood (yama-yama), or the chemical ingredients of Tampons, Pads, Douches, Vaginal washes etc. They are all absorbed into your blood, your body and your organs. Chemicals in sanitary products include; Chlorine, Furans, Dioxin, Rubber, Plastics,Parabens, Phthalates,

Industrial gums, Adhesivesetc., etc. Many are known to be Cancer causing (carcinogenic), and many are known endocrine disruptors, which cause hormone imbalance by mimicking estrogen (Xenoestrogen). Most of these products are imported into Nigeria. Due to laws in their countries of manufacture, like the USA, they are classifi ed such that the ingredients can be omitted.


Do you have any of these Symptoms in the Vulva or vaginal area
• Itching
• Rash
• Irritation
• Burning
• Allergic reaction
• Raw looking
• Redness


These chemicals cause when they disrupt your hormones include
• Unusual menses
• Heavy menses
• No menses
• Painful menses
• Infertility
• Ovarian Cysts
• PCOS – Poly Cystic Ovarian
• Cancer

The following chart is from,Women’s voices for the Earth (

Potential Health Hazards Associated with Feminine Care Products

Tampons: Hazardous ingredients may include dioxins and furans (from the chlorine bleaching process), pesticide residues and unknown fragrance chemicals. Exposure concerns include cancer, reproductive harm, endocrine disruption, and allergic rash.

Pads: Hazardous ingredients may include dioxins and furans, pesticide residues, unknown fragrance chemicals, and adhesive chemicals such as methyldibromo glutaronitrile. Exposure concerns include cancer, reproductive harm, and endocrine disruption. Studies link pad use to allergic rash.

Feminine Wipes: Hazardous ingredients may include Methylchloroisothiazolinone, Methylisothiazolinone, parabens, quaternium-15, DMDM Hydantoin and unknown fragrance chemicals. Exposure concerns include cancer and endocrine disruption. Studies link wipe use to allergic rash.

Feminine Wash: Hazardous ingredients may include unknown fragrance chemicals, parabens, Methylchloroisothiazolinone,

Methylisothiazolinone, DMDM Hydantoin, D&C Red No.33, Ext D&C Violet #2, and FD&C Yellow #5. Exposure concerns include endocrine disruption, allergic rash, and asthma.

Douche: Hazardous ingredients may include unknown fragrance chemicals and the spermicide Octoxynol-9. Studies link douche use to bacterial vaginosis, pelvic infl ammatory disease, cervical cancer, low-birth weight, preterm birth, HIV transmission, sexually transmitted diseases, ectopic pregnancy, chronic yeast infections, and infertility.

Feminine deodorant (sprays, powders and suppositories): Hazardous ingredients may include unknown fragrance chemicals, parabens, and Benzethonium Chloride. Exposure concerns include reproductive harm, endocrine disruption and allergic rash.

Feminine anti-itch creams: Hazardous ingredients may include unknown fragrance chemicals, parabens, Methylisothiazolinone and an active ingredient, benzocaine, a mild anesthetic. Exposure concerns include endocrine disruption, allergic rash, and unresolved itch. American Public Health Association and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) specifi cally recommend against intravaginal cleaning (douching) as it is both medically unnecessary and associated with adverse health outcomes such as increased bacterial infections.

In addition, ACOG recommends against the use of fragranced tampons and pads, as well as feminine sprays and powders, to help prevent or clear up vulva disorders. Many of these chemicals are toxins that sequester in the body, especially in fatty tissue, and linger in the body for many years.

Slowly with further accumulation they over-burden your body’s detoxification systems, especially the liver. They slowly weaken your Immune system and make you prone to diseases, including and especially the dreaded Cancer and Autoimmune disorders. Also, many of the chemicals cause increase in “Cellular Oxidative Stress”, leading to rapid aging of your skin and your internal organs.The Vagina has an innate intricate system of self-cleansing designed by our creator. These chemicals also interfere with this natural process.


So what are we to do and what advise do we share with our Mothers, Sisters, and Daughters.
Read the label.
a. As a general rule if there is no ingredient listed,..…reconsider.
b. If the ingredients are chemicals and very difficult to pronounce,…… reconsider
c. Recycled,……reconsider
d. Perfumes and fragrances,……. reconsider
e. Polymer,…….reconsider
f. Super absorbent gels,…….reconsider
g. Rayon, Vicose,……. reconsider
h. Creped cellulose, reconsider
i. Unscented,…. means chemicals added to cover odour of other chemicals… reconsider
j. Synthetics and plastic. They also restrict the free fl ow of air and can trap heat and dampness, potentially promoting the growth of yeast and bacteria in your vaginal area,…………reconsider.

There are certain key words to look for in search of healthier options:

1. Chlorine-free Free of this toxic chemical and its byproducts, such as Dioxin

2. Organic Free of chemicals like fertilizers, herbicides, pesticides, chemical perfumes, color additives and GMO (genetically modified organism)

3. Synthetic-free Free of man-made, chemically synthesized products

4. Wood pulp fl uff free Free of many chemicals used in the fl uff processing

5. Fragrance-free or Perfume-free Free of chemicals added to give nice aroma, or added to hide odour of other chemicals

6. 100% Cotton.

7. Non-GMO Free of genetically modified cotton (BT-Cotton from India and USA) and other genetically modified components. The GMO materials weaken your immune system.

8. Anion Anion content in the pad makes the pad an antibacteria sanitary pad that helps prevent bacteria multiplication, eliminates odour and promotes comfort during menstrual period.

I have walked through pharmacies recently to see what is on the shelf. I have talked to pharmacist and doctors, and most are unaware of the concerns raised in the article. So be cautious to whom you go for advice.

Read more online; see the detail of the Women’s Voices of the Earth report and other reputable health and wellness sources. As a pharmacist and medical doctor, and radio program host, people ask me bluntly, what do I recommend, what does my spouse use, and where can they get it. While I cannot vouch for every brand that meets the healthier criteria, here are action steps to help;


1. If you have any of the above symptoms, Visit your doctor.
2. Read the label on the products
3. Use the list above to screen toxic products from healthier products
4. Purchase healthier choices
5. Detox: Detoxify your body regularly to remove chemicalsout of your body that have accumulated from prior use of unhealthy feminine products.
6. Stop douching and using vaginal sprays and powders.
7. Enlighten and educate our Sisters and Mothers and Daughters.

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Do not tolerate indecent dressing in churches – Rev Msgr John Aniagwu

Do not tolerate indecent dressing in churches – Rev Msgr John Aniagwu

The Vicar-General of the Catholic Archdiocese of Lagos and Episcopal Vicar, Ikeja Regional, Msgr. (Dr.) John Kanebi Asuqou Aniagwu has urged all Catholics to dress decently in church and other places.

Rt. Rev. Msgr. Aniagwu who is also the Parish Priest of St Leo’s Catholic Church, Ikeja, said so at a meeting with the lay faithful during his May 2015 canonical visit to St Catherine’s Catholic Church, Alagbado, Lagos. Responding to questions on indecent dressing in churches, Msgr Aniagwu cautioned that, “A child of God has no reason not to dress properly anywhere, whether in the Church, in the market or at university campus.”Msgr. Aniagwu

He expressed regrets that parents now dress indecently and encourage their children to do same. “Some parents go to the shops to buy those dresses for their children and even the way the fathers and mothers dress sometimes leave much to be desired,” he observed.

He warned, “We should not tolerate indecent dressing in the church, either for boys or for girls, either for men or for women. It is not only women, even men can dress indecently. Some ‘sag’ …sagging is very stupid. They should never do that coming to church. The women should never wear clothes that expose sensitive parts of their body or dresses that are too short.

There is this thing they call ‘spaghetti’. They should not wear such dresses to church especially when they are coming for marriage. I tell them in my church, if you come for wedding and you are not properly dressed, I will not wed you. If you know you are wearing such, please put on the small jacket that goes along with it. After the mass and you want to go naked, that is your business. But inside the church you must dress properly. The same thing goes for the bridesmaids. If you don’t dress well in my church, the church wardens will not allow you inside the church. You will stay outside.

When you finish you can run mad if you like.” He however cautioned that, “Some people want us to believe that for a woman to wear trouser is indecent dressing. That is not correct. It depends on the kind of trouser. There are trousers that are decent. But the one that is very tight they call leggie is not trousers and should not be worn to church.

If the trouser is a proper trouser that covers well, we do not forbid it here in Lagos Archdiocese. On women covering their head in the church, he explained, “There was once a national regulation that women must cover their head when they go to Church. But I can tell you that in many parts of Nigeria especially here in Lagos, that rule has lapsed and we no longer insist. If a particular woman has a special reason for not covering her head, so be it.”

Divorce Rate Rises

Divorce Rate Rises

Divorce rate in Nigeria seems to be rising. The main reasons are incompatibility and intolerance of couple, writes Chris Onokpegu with additional reports from NCR.

The extant law provides that a marriage should last at least two years before it can be dissolved. But in most cases, couples seek
dissolution of marriages less than one year old. Taiwo Olanrewaju, a marriage counsellor believes the marriage institution is gradually failing due to high rate of divorce. A source at the Federal High Court Abuja told this magazine that there are many pending divorce cases before the court.

Although he could not give the exact number, the source revealed that in the state high courts divorce cases are handled almost every day. Some years back, marriage was a sacred institution and was respected and preserved. Couples, who took the sacred oath of ‘for better, for worse, till death do us apart’ before ministers of God, observe such oath and remained in marriage till death did them part. A lawyer, Mrs.Yemi Ajayi explains that marriage then was a worthwhile venture especially among Christians, Muslims and traditional religion worshipers.

Parish Priest of Holy Trinity Catholic Church, Isashi, Lagos, Rev. Fr. Ukoma Andrew attributes the high rate of divorce in the country to western influence on families, greed, and negative impacts of Nigeria’s dwindling economy. He laments that the basic foundation of marriage has been destroyed; consequently, many couples no longer have respect for the institution of marriage.

“Marriage is no longer seen as a sacrament whereby a man and a woman are married for life. The injunction that they will remain married till death do them part no longer means much to a Westerner. Unfortunately, they are trying to impose that on Africans, and particularly Nigerians. Today, people marry for the wrong reasons either because the bride or groom is from a rich home or is rich.”

Rev. Fr. Ukoma Andrew regrets that the rate of divorce is high even among Catholics and adds,“The Church has never relented in teaching members through homilies, writings and seminars, but unfortunately people will always do that which appeals to them.”Divorce rate

A marriage counsellor, Dr. Eunice Iheanacho blames the high rate of divorce in the society on immaturity of couples. Iheanacho says couples these days are always impatient, full of pride and lack understanding, wisdom and are unable to take corrections or correct another’s mistakes. There is case of a couple that sought the dissolution of their marriage simple because one of them jokingly used derogatory language on the other.

Vincent Nwana, a lawyer, believes that “if every couple exhibited some level of tolerance, this would elicit mutual understanding among the spouses which would go a long way in reducing factors responsible for divorce.” He cautions presidents of customary courts and magistrates to exhibit a high level of discretion in handling divorce cases so as to reduce the incidences of divorce.

Abraham Ojekanmi of the School of Marriage International lists infidelity, finance, and intrusion by third party as some of the reasons. He explains that friends cause more problems for couples than enemies, “because if you know your enemy, you distance yourself from him.” Pastor Ojekanmi argues that the reasons why couples decide to divorce are not tenable before God.

“God expects them to stand straight and continue the marriage till death do them part because God does not recognise divorce in marriage.” The impact of Western culture has been identified as one of the reasons why the marital institution is suffering serious setback in the country.

Often times, couples go into marriage without understanding the character of the other spouse or their compatibility. Some women, in their desperation to get married, ignore marriage counselling and courtship. “Most young women feel it is a must to get married at an early age while the older ones cannot stand the stigma of not being married.

Therefore, they enter into marriage not minding what it may cost them in future,” observes Linus Okwara. Parents who impose spouses on their children also share part of the blame. Such marriages, according to Mrs. Nkechi Amanambu do not last as soon as the couple realise that the union is against their will. Femi Awodele, a social commentator says the inability of a couple to spend time together contributes a lot to marriage failure. Quest for mundane things hardly give couples the time to stay together and understand themselves better.

Worried by the development, some lawyers at a press conference in Lagos called on couples to show mutual understanding and tolerance of each other. They identified inability of prospective couples to determine their compatibility before marriage as one of the factors responsible for the alarming rate of divorce.

Religious organisations have roles to play for marriage stability. Some of them organise marriage counselling up to three years for intending couples. Because of rising divorce rates and to ensure women have something to fall back on in the event of marriage collapse, religious organisations insist that couples get married in court before the white wedding. There have been cases of divorce where the man goes away with all the property including the one jointly owned with the woman.

Court marriage also makes divorce diffi cult since the court processes must be exhausted before the marriage can be dissolved. Divorce comes with social effects especially on woman and children. While the woman is seen as an irresponsible person who is unable to keep her home, the children lack parental care and are prone to societal ills.

Alfa Delesolu says such children are exposed to vices and may end up as street kids. He notes that the divorced couple are negatively affected too especially if one of them still loves the other. That could lead to lack of concentration at work or eventual loss of job, illness and lots of other terrible things. Musa Ahmed, a lawyer, says the effect of divorce is particularly grave on the children. “Most children you find roaming the streets hawking are largely products of broken homes.

The society is continuously put at risk if these children are not catered for. Eventually, they may turn out to be a nuisance to the society,” he adds. Ojekanmi believes that divorce also affects the man psychologically, emotionally and socially. A study in the United States of America, reveals that most of the unruly behaviours in the country are caused by people who have divorced; a man tends to misbehave when the wife is not with him again.

Rev. Fr. UkomaMost people believe that one of the ways to put a stop or reduce divorce is for couples to avoid suspicion, find time to confirm any allegation by their spouse and should not allow intrusion in their marriage. On how to avoid divorce among couples, Rev. Fr. Ukoma Andrew recom that couples should always feel free to bring their challenges to their priests.

“Often when the challenges come, couples keep them to themselves without the aid of prayer and the aid of the spirit of God. Such marriage is bound to collapse. I advise Catholics that whenever they are faced with challenges of marriage, they should first of all report it to their marriage sponsors.

If their marriage sponsor cannot solve the problem, let them bring it to their Priest who is always there to cater for the spiritual and psychological well being of the members.” Husband and wife should pray. Every marriage faces challenges. But God is greater than all family challenges.